new beginning

Does your perspective keep you stuck or does it empower you to go forward?

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New beginnings happen in time, born from an ‘ending,’ that came with a ‘choice,’ or from one we did not choose. Either way, at some point, the possibility of a new beginning will come. It comes after a period of grief, when we pine and ache for our loss, when we mourn the passing of hopes and dreams, a future that will never be. The possibility of a new beginning comes with the painful transition of letting go of what no longer is, and opening our eyes to something different – a tiny spark of light, that for just a moment, helps us see something that we have not seen before – a new perspective and another way forward.

To reach the point of going forward in a new direction and seeing and feeling the possibility of another way, life will come at us in ways that are not necessarily gentle and sympathetic. Ways and waves of things going wrong, designed to defeat our old way of thinking, or attachment to a way that no longer is.

It requires us to trust ‘life’ and to realise that ‘all of this,’ the stuff that hurts us and trips us up, is not happening to us, it’s happening for us.

What is life ‘bringing up’ about me or about my situation that does not serve my growth or higher purpose?

What are the thoughts and fears I have that keep me stuck and bound in a situation that does not serve me? What is the thing that triggers me and what is the fear or pain that lies beneath for this to be a trigger? What must I change, accept or let go for me to be self-empowered and the master of my life, free of external contributors or factors I have no control of.

Our perspective of our life is our most powerful tool. It’s the thing that keeps us stuck in stagnant waters or it can be the thing that empowers us to let go and for us to go forward. To begin again, we must change our perspective.

“Your life does not get better by chance, it get’s better by change.” – Jim Rohn

From Endings to New Beginnings: My Story

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It’s taken me 2 years to get here, to the part in my journey that I can confidently say I’m at a ‘new beginning.’ The truth is that with ‘new beginnings,’ there is most often a blurry start, with one year smudging into the other, swinging between ‘endings’ and old narratives, to new beginnings and the possibilities that come with a ‘different way.’

The truth about a new beginning is that to begin, there must first be an end; one that knocks us to our knees, disables us and stops us braving the night. The end is there to defeat us so that we cannot carry on as we were. It offers us no torch to light up the old trodden path we know so well. It leaves us in the dark and it’s here, when we’re feeling lost, hopeless and grief stricken, that we’re faced with a decision. We either stay here, stagnated in this position of helplessness, or we bravely take a step forward and we start walking into the unknown, in a new direction.

New beginnings are not always so clear. Sometimes, it takes years to begin again; an inch by inch process in a new direction with regular setbacks. But then something happens and it ‘lands’ with a  ‘thump,’ enough for you to turn your head and to look back and see how far you have come; to see that where there was once no space for anything else other than the pain or loss you felt, there is now simply space and enough light to mindfully choose your way. In that moment, you know you’ve turned the page and this is a new chapter, a new beginning.

Join me as I continue to walk down this path, exploring it and experiencing it, with all the bumps and burns and the twists and turns that come with starting something.

The beauty about a ‘new beginning’ is simply that there can be one.

Here begins a new chapter and a new theme for the Rosie Goes Blog: New beginnings.