New beginnings happen in time, born from an ‘ending,’ that came with a ‘choice,’ or from one we did not choose. Either way, at some point, the possibility of a new beginning will come. It comes after a period of grief, when we pine and ache for our loss, when we mourn the passing of hopes and dreams, a future that will never be. The possibility of a new beginning comes with the painful transition of letting go of what no longer is, and opening our eyes to something different – a tiny spark of light, that for just a moment, helps us see something that we have not seen before – a new perspective and another way forward.

To reach the point of going forward in a new direction and seeing and feeling the possibility of another way, life will come at us in ways that are not necessarily gentle and sympathetic. Ways and waves of things going wrong, designed to defeat our old way of thinking, or attachment to a way that no longer is.

It requires us to trust ‘life’ and to realise that ‘all of this,’ the stuff that hurts us and trips us up, is not happening to us, it’s happening for us.

What is life ‘bringing up’ about me or about my situation that does not serve my growth or higher purpose?

What are the thoughts and fears I have that keep me stuck and bound in a situation that does not serve me? What is the thing that triggers me and what is the fear or pain that lies beneath for this to be a trigger? What must I change, accept or let go for me to be self-empowered and the master of my life, free of external contributors or factors I have no control of.

Our perspective of our life is our most powerful tool. It’s the thing that keeps us stuck in stagnant waters or it can be the thing that empowers us to let go and for us to go forward. To begin again, we must change our perspective.